Thursday, January 06, 2011


It seems like things happen in waves.  Groups.  Like, I know three people pregnant and due in February.  I don't know anybody due in January or March or April.  Three in February.  Last year I knew two people who were due in October. 

Right now, it seems like I keep hearing about people getting divorced.  Some I know fairly well, some I don't really know at all, but for a few years I didn't hear about anyone getting divorced -- and now suddenly, people are splitting up everywhere.

So it seems especially important for me to comment on what happened yesterday.
January 5, 2002

Yesterday was Mark's and my 9th wedding anniversary.  We've been married for 9 years, 3 kids, 4 cars, and 2 houses.  They've flown by.  I know everybody thinks this, but.... little did we know, 9 years ago, what was in store for us.  And, perhaps that ignorance is a very good thing!

We barely have time to say good morning and good night, much less to stop and acknowledge our anniversary, but it's important to recognize that we are still a happy couple, despite having been through at least 3 of the top10 stressors in a marriage.  I definitely needed to stop and thank my husband for being supportive, flexible, and always, always loving.  I have never, ever had to wonder how he felt about me.  He is the greatest husband and father I know.  I am enormously blessed in the partner department!

I was so excited yesterday, to find our wedding video and show it to Aliza after the boys went to bed.  I dug around through all the stuff in the basement storage to find the box of VCR tapes that I knew was down there and finally found it.  I brought it upstairs, put it in the VCR (one of those that is built into the TV, that we haven't used in months, maybe years....) only to find, it doesn't work.  Hm.  Maybe that's why we stopped using it.

So now I have to have the VCR tape made into a DVD, I guess, if we want to see it. Until then we can just look at the pictures. 

But I'm glad we acknowledged it, and it would be easy to overlook our anniversary, sandwiched between Christmas and the kids' birthdays like it is.  It is an important day and thank you hon, for making sure our family celebrated it.  And thanks too, for the last 9 years.  Here's to 99 more.

Most of our wedding party, at our reception


Kim and Steve said...

You are a beautiful bride, Bonnie! We will also celebrate 9 years in June. Congratulations!

Salt in Suburbia said...

Fun post and congrats to you both. You are both blessed to have each other.

Umma said...

Congratualtions to you both!

Marc and Rachael said...

Oh so sweet. Thanks for sharing.

Chris P-M said...

Awwww...your post brought tears to my eyes! My hubby and I were just talking about how lucky we are to be lucky in the "couple" dept as well, especially given the statistic of 80% of marriages ending in divorce when faced with raising a SN child.

My hubby wrote on his Christmas letter that despite a lot of these issues, our marriage has gotten stronger.

SO...cheers to you and your hubby! I know that it isn't always easy, but very worth it!


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